EXPECTATIONS: Nurturing Trust and Emotions in Kids: The Power of Relationships and Understanding

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Nurturing Trust and Emotions in Kids




Children are born with incredible potential, and their developing brains hold the key to understanding, trust, and emotional regulation. However, these crucial connections are often shaped by their early experiences and relationships with caring adults. In this blog, we'll explore how these relationships, coupled with understanding, can help children learn to love others with genuine devotion, while also shedding light on the challenges they may face due to traumatic experiences. 


Building Trust and Emotional Regulation 


  • Relationships with Caring Adults: Children's brains are wired to trust and connect with the adults who care for them. When caregivers provide a safe and loving environment, children learn that they are worthy of love and attention. This foundation is essential for healthy emotional development. 


  • God's Love: Many families incorporate faith into their lives, teaching children about God's love. This spiritual connection can further reinforce a child's sense of worth and belonging, offering them a source of comfort and guidance. 


Understanding Trauma's Impact 


  • The Internal Alarm System: When children repeatedly face threats or traumatic experiences, their internal alarm system can become "stuck in alert mode." This constant state of hyperarousal can lead to overwhelming anxiety, making it challenging for them to regulate their emotions. 


  • Stress Hormones and Fight-or-Flight: Trauma triggers the release of stress hormones, causing children to react with instinctual responses of fight, flight, or freeze. Life becomes a constant struggle, and even minor stressors can set off intense reactions. This hormone over time changes the brain pathways. The once smooth pathway becomes jagged. The children no longer respond in acceptable ways. They are prone to react in ways that trigger the parents because of how they were raised in their childhood. 


  • Recovery Takes Time: Understanding that a child's brain chemicals are affected by trauma is crucial. It's essential to recognize that they may not always respond "normally" to situations. Loving them warmly and patiently is vital, as healing is a gradual process. 


Support and Solutions 


  • Medication and Counseling: In some cases, children with imbalanced brain chemicals may benefit from medication to help them manage their emotions. However, this should always be done under the guidance of medical professionals. Counseling is also an essential component of the healing process. 


  • Meeting Needs Consistently: Consistently meeting a child's emotional and physical needs is key to their recovery. It helps create a sense of safety and predictability in their lives. 


  • Ongoing Training and Support: Foster parents and caregivers require ongoing training and support to help children correctly engage with their emotions. Understanding trauma-informed care is essential for creating a healing environment. 



The journey of nurturing trust, emotional regulation, and love in children is a complex but profoundly rewarding one. As Elinor learned, children who have experienced trauma may face unique challenges, but with understanding, patience, and the support of caring adults, positive change is possible. We must remember that every child is worthy of love and compassion, and it's our responsibility to provide them with the tools they need to heal, grow, and thrive. 


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